You may recall that I wrote a blog post this past Friday titled "Parenthood," about my younger son and his decision to start a new chapter in his life. He decided he needed to get away from home (and his hometown), so he took a bus to Lansing, Michigan, and was going to stay with friends and look for a job.
Long story short: My son's plan lasted about 36 hours. He's back living at home again.
I have to admit, it's nice to have him back. And even though he wasn't gone for but a day-and-a-half, I still think we can chalk this up as a learning experience. He thought things through, made a plan, made a decision for himself, and took action. I'm not sure what it was that made him decide to come back home--he hasn't wanted to discuss it in depth--but that was another choice he had to work through and make on his own. At least he's thinking for himself!
Becoming an adult is so hard. You reach a certain age and want your independence, but you still want the security and comforts of home, too. There's always that tug of war going on inside your head.
Here's hoping my son feels comfortable with his latest decision. If nothing else, I know he's comfortable enough with his parents to know that they would respect his decision, even if it contradicted a decision he had made just 36 hours earlier.
Unconditional love and respect. That's what life is all about.
"Loving and respecting others means allowing them to be themselves. When you stop expecting people to be a certain way, you can begin to appreciate THEM." --Unknown