Monday, November 21, 2011


More lies from my son today. Very disappointing. I know the lies are just another part of my son's disease. But that doesn't take away the pain that's inflicted every time he lies to me and my wife.

No need to go into details about what happened. Just know--if you didn't already--that trusting an addict is something that can't be done. It doesn't matter if the addict is a stranger, a co-worker, a neighbor, a sibling...or even your own son. It doesn't matter if the addict is in the same house, or if they're 2,300 miles away. In their world, honesty is not the best policy. They just do and say whatever they have to in order to get whatever it is that they want. It's so incredibly selfish. And it's part of the disease.

The old sports saying says, There's no "I" in "team." That may be true. But there is an "I" in "addict." And all it cares about is itself.


  1. well put dean. and sorry. i know so much of (so much of ? all of ) it is such a struggle, but being lied to just sucks all by itself. i always catch my breath at that paul simon line: never been lonely, never been lied to. i just thought of it again when i read this, because i felt the sting of the lie, for you. much love to you all, from cyberspace. fluff/karen

  2. I have read your blog for a long time. I so relate. You could be telling my story.
    I know the disappointment, the frustration, the pain, the wanting things to work this time.
    I continue to have guarded hope for my son and I will for your's too. I will have faith that my
    God can work in their lives. I know that He has a plan .......a plan that we can not even begin to imagine.
    I am grateful for you and you blog.
    I am grateful for all our God is teaching us.
    I am grateful for His plan in our lives.

  3. I'm so sorry that you, us, have to go through this. I like what Lulu said. I hope it gets better for all of us.

  4. My thoughts exactly. This is the same I have experienced with my own daugher.