Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Update

I decided to say nothing to my son last night. My wife and I had discussed talking to him about it, but I just didn't want to deal with it. My nephew from New York is staying with us, and I didn't want a "discussion" about my son's drug habit to escalate into something that would ruin the night for everyone. And who knows? Maybe "The Silent Treatment" will have more of an effect than any sort of discussion would have. Lord knows my kid has heard everything I would've said last night before.

We will discuss what happened. Eventually. But I'm pretty sure that this time any such conversation will end with, "You have until such and such a date to move out of the house." Because I'm done trying to fix things. And I'm done letting my addict son dictate how I feel. And I'm tired of having a black cloud hover over my house and family. I'm just done with it all.

Oh, and I confirmed that the phone calls my son made/got came from his drug dealer. I actually called the number, just because I was curious. It was a cellphone, and the call went to voicemail. The recording said the voicemail box was full. But less than a minute later, the guy called back and I answered the phone. He thought I was my kid, calling me by my son's name. When I told him he was in fact talking to his customer's father, he claimed to have the wrong number. Interesting experience, for sure. It's not every day you get to talk on the phone to your son's drug dealer.

6 comments:

  1. Just wondering -- can you forward the phone number to the friendly nieghborhood police so they can start watching this guy? I would love to see this dealer busted and in jail and out of the business of destroying lives.

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  2. In a perfect world, that would be what I would do. Unfortunately, we live in a suburb. The dealer lives in the city of Detroit, which is just a couple of blocks away from us. Forwarding the number to the Detroit police would probably result in laughter on their end. A petty drug dealer in Detroit is something they couldn't care less about. Sad, but true.

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  3. My son was on drugs for a few years. We decided to stop expecting perfection and start appreciating each moment. I hope everything works out for the best. Glad I stumbled upon your blog. Real life is real interesting.

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  4. I would like to follow your blog....you are a complete stranger who sounds like they are going through the hardest thing I have EVER heard. I lost a friend to herion and now work in a prison. I see the effects of drugs everyday. I am only 28 and do not have children yet. However I can only imagine the incredible pain of what you are dealing with. Thank you for sharing and please TRY to concentrate on your own happiness. Do not enable your son anymore. Live the most amazing life you can for yourself. I hope things work out...I will follow your struggle.

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  5. oh man! it's to sad to read about drugs adiction... that's real life...I'm young and I feel too bad when I hear about it... I've lived all my life in a dangerous neighborhood. I've seen how "perfect lives" go down. How a brilliant future is broken.. it's hard.
    Hope it will change soon.

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  6. I wish you happiness

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