tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214164572251206738.post5422868539788389714..comments2024-02-24T21:45:39.650-05:00Comments on My Life As 3D: Today I'm a hypocriteDDDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07333974041672267981noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214164572251206738.post-87463110249271890012009-04-23T11:57:00.000-04:002009-04-23T11:57:00.000-04:00ugh. my heart just hurts for you.
I don't think yo...ugh. my heart just hurts for you.<br />I don't think you are a hypocrite, btw. Just trying to grapple between being hopeful/courageous and facing the grim reality. It's a shitty position to have to be in.erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17414474885075386948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214164572251206738.post-40302830423048260222009-04-23T11:15:00.000-04:002009-04-23T11:15:00.000-04:00Deano: In a management class we learned a trick wh...Deano: In a management class we learned a trick which actually worked for a good perecentage of people in class: go in front of a mirror and smile the biggests, cheesiest grin you can. The sight of that (biofeedback) and the tingling feeling in the corner mouth/cheek muscles releases endorphins and can actually elevate mood :) Strangely, this actually works for me, and I'm a very morose person.<br /><br />I smile, say 'F#k It!' and force a laugh...but: I have silly problems/worries and YOU have actual family things to deal with.<br /><br />Now, I know unsolicited cheesy advice can sound patronising or pat so just know this Deano: I am pulling for you and wish you and your family the best, you are such a bright light for many of the people you interact with during the dull day.<br /><br />-mikeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214164572251206738.post-81826559232427706572009-04-23T08:53:00.000-04:002009-04-23T08:53:00.000-04:00I'm wondering, too ... Is it possible for you to r...I'm wondering, too ... Is it possible for you to remove yourself from the role of human alarm clock? That's SOoooo much easier said than done (I don't think I ever totally removed myself from that role). But the idea is: There will be failures, yes. Classes dropped, jobs lost. There will be successes, too. But what will his successes mean if *you're* the one who made them happen? He won't be able to "own" his own successes, he won't be able to feel proud of his own self, because you're the one who made him go to bed (or tried to), woke him up (or tried to), drove him (why not a bus or bike?) ... whatever he succeeds at doing might seem more like your victory than his. So (his thinking might go), why even bother to try?<br /><br />I dunno. I don't know how much practical value any of that has. But it's the kind of thing therapists say, so I'm repeating it. :)<br /><br />Love,<br />ChristaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214164572251206738.post-85040515087964112192009-04-22T20:03:00.000-04:002009-04-22T20:03:00.000-04:00There are also volunteer organizations that sponso...There are also volunteer organizations that sponsor trips to, say, Louisiana or Mississippi for Katrina cleanup (which is still ongoing; some folks from my church recently went on a cleanup week there). Or to other places where help is needed. Maybe GP Unitarian (I'm just thinking of somewhere close to you) is involved in something like that? Some go-away-and-help-people thing ... well, it's worth thinking about, anyhow.<br /><br />Or some stay-in-town-and-help-people thing. Every Saturday at Westminster Presby in Detroit, they feed people. I know, getting up to do it is the thing ... how to get out of bed ... but ... somehow, it just seems like doing something on purpose just to help somebody else is a good way for somebody to, I guess, get their head out of their, you know, pillow. And probably going away to do it -- like away to New Orleans or someplace far (with an appropriately caring and consciencious group), just away -- might be good for both you and him.<br /><br />Thoughts, anyhow. (And here's some prayers, too.)<br /><br />ChristaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com